Today on our blog for sellers, I blogged about dealing with accumulated family junk from a property you want to sell. Of course, I recommended that people in this situation consider selling the property below retail price to someone like us, who specializes in revitalizing properties that are in sad shape. That works for many people. If you want to deal with it yourself, I did find a good article on paring down things ahead of time.
But what about our own intangible personal junk? Our mental to-do list clutter? We often accumulate a huge list of things to do, and at a certain point, just like with a junky house, the mess can get to be too much, and we just try to pretend it’s not there. What are some options? I prefer to choose one of the Three Ds of Mental Clutter Management, which I just made up: Do It! Delegate! or Dump It! I’ll explore the Three Ds over the course of the next few days, along with some examples.
Items we really need to do can grow to look like giant un-scalable walls that just keep closing us in. I have an investor friend who called me last night, desperate to finally get one of those items off her plate—making her first offer on a property. All her coaches kept saying to just do it, but there were a lot of details she didn’t want to mess up. Any of you remember your first offer? It’s a huge hurdle. But, she was not going to let that intimidate her. That item HAD to be off the list so she could move forward.
So, our team gave her some information to help her understand the forms she was working with, and off she went. She DID it.
And to be honest, no matter how hard some of our accumulated personal clutter can be to get rid of, some of it truly must be addressed ourselves. No one else can do some things, and those are the things we need to mentally gear up for and just DO.
True fact: you just can’t learn from experience if you don’t actually have any experiences to learn from, so sometimes you just have to jump on in and see how it goes. Reading books and watching videos is great preparation, but there’s no substitute for working with real people in real situations.
Once the initial hard part is over, things often move along much more quickly. For example, I bet my investor friend’s next offer won’t feel so hard. She will learn from any mistakes she made in this one, refine her technique, and soon make great offers, and often.
Heck, I remember taking ages to select flooring, paint, and backsplashes. I was afraid I’d ruin a house. Now I make those decisions in minutes, or just use my previous selections over again. I have a system! One of my mentors, Than Merrill, shared recently that when he was just starting out, it took him up to a year to get comfortable negotiating with sellers on purchasing property. You have to start the calendar countdown in order to get past that first year, though.
Tune in tomorrow for the second of the Three Ds of Mental Clutter Management, Delegate! And in the meantime, I’d welcome your comments or feedback. Share this on Facebook and you just might be eligible for a special treat later.
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