This is not an easy post to write, but I wanted to write it as a reminder that when buying a house, plans change. I also said I would share this house buying adventure and this is certainly part of it.
The house that we found has 7 acres. The plan was to fence off about one and a half for the dogs, and leave 5 for my mare, Ricci and baby donkey Bocephelus. That was a real motivator for me with this property. I wanted to give my 22 year old mare a nice place to retire and live out her days. She has battled liver failure for about 5 years now.
I am sad to report that last Thursday, August 3rd, my oldest friend passed away from the liver failure. However, I got permission from the sellers to bury her on the property, because I just couldn’t stand the thought of leaving her behind.
Now, here is where a lesson comes in. Contingency planning! What do you do if something happens that takes away a motivator of why you are looking for a new home? In my opinion, you should have multiple reasons to be wanting to buy anyway. You should have some major points, and then some smaller points. These will keep your drive going to continue your search and your purchase in the chaos created when something takes one of your plans away.
This house is the size that our family needs. The house we are in has been deemed un-fixable by two contractors. We also still have three dogs, and one coming soon, who need a yard. There is still the baby donkey that may be coming to live there. I am still in love with the house. My Ricci is buried under a beautiful shade tree where she would have probably been most of the time, anyway. I still have many, many great motivators to buy that house.
Had she been the only reason, we would have just wasted everyone’s time and money so far. I have seen people move or buy houses on a whim. Houses are not impulse buys! Shop wisely and carefully! Most that I have seen that moved on a whim either lost their home or are now miserable. List your resources, list your reasons. Be prepared for what you want, what you can afford, and why you are doing it.
That is all I have.
I could go on forever with stories about My Ricci and I, but I will leave you this one that is one of my favorites.
Ricci loved to ride kids around more than anything in the world! So we had some friends who would bring their kids over and we would take them riding. It was always me with a lead rope, and Ricci following. Well, one day a little girl who was riding her decided she really needed to try it on her own. I trusted Ricci implicitly with this task. I trusted her with my life and the lives of my children. So, I let go and took the lead rope off, walked back to the gate and let the little girl take over.
I think when the girl squeezed her heels Ricci took one, maybe two steps, stopped cold, looked to the right and left, turned to see me by the gate, and went to the feed trough by the gate. The little girl is trying everything I am telling her to do, and Ricci just ignored her completely.
I asked Ricci to please take her at least in the circle and pushed her head that direction. She made half the distance I had wanted, and came right back to me with a huge sigh, and the look of “I ain’t doing that again, dude.” I am positive Ricci used the word “dude” just as much as I do. So that was the end of the ride that day.
I grew up with Ricci for the last 22 years. I will definitely miss her, but I have to keep moving forward with the purchase of this house for all of the other reasons and also for what the future may hold. Just because I am not looking for another baby horse to raise right now does not mean it won’t happen. I hope you all enjoy the story and the pictures.