Failure. This has been a true lesson for me for the past year and a half to two years. I have had some disabilities diagnosed that have caused me to convince myself of failure. People have even recommended that I quit working and apply for disability benefits. There’s a whole long list of things I can’t do, and a longer list of why I will fail. But is that really true, or are they made-up scenarios in my head that I have just convinced myself of? I think the latter is actually the truth.
Lee has suggested that I could do what he does. I could have a business like this too. No, Lee. Let’s not get crazy! I can’t. Well, why can’t I?
I think we all reach this point, wheret the thing standing between us and success is a fear of failure. To quote Lee, “Did you really fail, or did you find a way that doesn’t work?” That’s the question! And here is the answer: Failure is absolutely subjective when we want to do better with our lives, but are convinced we will fail. And we can be convinced whether someone has told us we will fail, or we decide that we will for ourselves.
I have had migraines my whole adult life. There were no known triggers, but they were seasonal. The past several months, they have exploded and become random. They are no longer treated by the medication I took for them, and have resulted in a few trips to the ER after days of no relief.
Well, I heard about this piercing. It may or may not help. So, I had it done. I had my daith pierced on my right ear (Sue Ann added a photo, because she never heard of daiths before). It stopped the migraines cold. Slight headaches followed for maybe a week that were migraines trying to get through, and I either took Tylenol, or just turned the light off and let them pass. The last time I had an unmedicated headache just pass, I only had 1 child, so that was at least 18 years ago.
Now, I will follow up and have the left side done as well since the warning of “Migraine Migration” has come true. But I am confident it will work. Why?
Because I’m Brilliant?
…no, because I decided that it would not be a failure if it didn’t. I was not afraid to try it, because if it didn’t work, at least I tried, and now knew what wouldn’t work. I didn’t say “What had failed.”
So, what now? Is there a way to apply that to trying to move ahead in business, or is business immune from this theory? The answer is, I can do what I want to do, because failure is all in my head. That word only has the power I give it.
What is the difference between Lee’s mindset of success, and mine? It’s in the words we use. “I failed to make this deal. I will never get another deal at this rate.” or “This one wasn’t the one. So let’s look at the next one.”
Real Estate Example
A prime example of why I know that I can make the decision to succeed, right here. The Rattlesnake House. There was every reason for the word “fail” to be used for every aspect of this project up to and including me continuing with my goal to buy it. I have been overwhelmed, but never defeated or thought some part had been a failure. When you want something bad enough, you can change the way you use your vocabulary to succeed. I have said, “Well that was a learning experience, and I will know that (insert whatever stage of progress here) needs to be done differently. I learned how it didn’t work. Not how it failed.
What about YOU?
So what is it that you really, really want? Ask yourself the hard questions of why you feel like you can’t achieve it, and why you believe in the word failure so much. I think once you get past that word and the power behind it, you will be amazed at the possibilities of what can succeed. I’ve often heard that the only emotion stronger than fear is hope. So spend time in hope rather than in fear, and in a little time let me know if you see it too.
PS: Lee says thanks to the Band of Heathens for the great shirt.Hermann says please like and share!