Starting this Hermit Haus business has meant doing a lot of things that all of us have never done before, even though all us partners have been buying, selling, and renovating houses for years. All this pushing to do new things is one of the reasons I decided to attent a lot of “personal development” sessions at the Real Estate Ignite conference last weekend, known as my Solo Knowledge Trek.
The speaker the first day was a very energetic person named Jesse Itzler, who as far as I am concerned, is most famous for being the spouse of the woman who founded Spanx. But apparently, he has many other qualifications, such as being a white rapper (briefly), and starting a jet airplane rental service, and marketing coconut water rather successfully. But he is a total hoot, and a very entertaining speaker as well. His book is also rather hilarious (I’m currently reading it, so his sales pitch worked.)
What Did He Do?
He talked a lot about stepping outside of his own comfort zone, physically and mentally, and how it’s paid off for him. Backed up by his intelligence and chutzpah, he has repeatedly gotten himself into situations in life where he has no experience, and has had to learn as he goes. By surrounding himself with the right folks, and being willing to do things he didn’t think he could do, though, he’s succeeded spectacularly.
What Did This Tell Me?
Listening to Jesse tell his stories in his engaging way (he’d be good in stand-up comedy), I was reminded that I’m also fairly smart and have good mentors (coaches, therapists, authors) and educational opportunities (all the conferences and webinars I attend). It reminds me that I can step off those cliffs into the unknown without my previous paralyzing fear.
What Did I Do?
Being willing to step off into the unknown has been working well for me in the past year, and I’m sort of proud of myself. I’ve learned to recognize situations in which the fear of the unknown is trying to stop me. I get a weird feeling, which makes my mind go, “DING! Pay attention! Fear of the Unknown is approaching!”
Rather than retreating to safety, I’m learning to take a deep breath and just move forward. Physically moving helps, even with mental fears. That’s a really useful tidbit.
How Did I Get to Be Able to Do It?
Working with my horse has helped a lot (since everything I do on my horse is new to me), and doing things like hosting our business open house solo, attending the conference on my own, etc., have helped me realize I’m way more capable of acquiring new skills and doing new things than I once thought I was.
Jesse’s talk reminded me that I am brave, and as I sat there listening to him I realized that my journey isn’t quite as spectacular as his (I have not been trained by a Navy SEAL like he has), but I am taking my own small steps into the non-comfort zone. It’s not deadly. You can do it, too!
Now, I’m not saying that you should jump off an actual cliff, but you can do things like talking to a potential lender, putting out bandit signs, writing posts for YOUR blog, and negotiating with potential contractors. Really, you can! Whatever it is that you are doing for your non-real estate job has similar challenges. Start out small, but do a thing. You will be surprised to learn that you lived, and if you messed up, you learned something. You won’t melt. Honest!